Sunday, July 20, 2014

Answer Me This from Catholic All Year

More answers over at Catholic All Year

1. What’s something you've won and how did you win it?
A basket of wine, when I signed up to be bone marrow donor. It was the item with the least about of raffle tickets in the jar, and instead of going to the popular Red Sox Tickets.  I had a better odds of winning. I do this at raffles and pick the least popular item. 

2. Do you save old greeting cards and letters, or throw them all away? Why?
Only from my husband. I do have all of our wedding/baptismal cards. A lot gets tossed, unless it is a hand written letter. 

3. When you’re at home, do you wear shoes, socks, slippers, or go barefoot?

4. Who’s the most famous person you have ever met? 
Politicians. Sen John McCain in 1999 and our current  Governor Deval Patrick

5. What has been your best work of art?
I can't draw a triangle and flunked handwriting in 4th grade. 

6.  What’s your strongest sense? 
I don't have a superior sense, in any of the five sense. I would say hearing. I never failed a hearing test. 

Friday, July 18, 2014

7QT Thoughts of Having #4 ""Are you out of your mind?""

 This is a Decade in Blogging series from my old blogs. This Quick Takes originate from six years ago, not as quick takes!

Remind you that #4 is now six years old! 

1.Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Whenever you visit someone, to them it's a small party of six guests.

2. Saturday, July 26, 2008
Nobody has giving me a lecture I'm destroying the environment or using up all the world's resource... so far.

3. Monday, July 28, 2008

Consider myself lectured, that I have too many children.

Population Policy Needed In Order To Combat Climate Change, Experts Argue

4. Sunday, August 03, 2008

Forgetting the pain when becoming a mother


Was out in public today with the new baby, anyone who was a mom commented how 'they wanted another', it is amazing how women can completely forget the stresses of labor when looking at a infant. 

5. Thursday, September 18, 2008

"Stay Up Late" by the Talking Heads

Too many people lately commenting on the size of my family. This song cheers me up. For parents children have costs and sacrifices, but to brothers and sisters siblings are free! 

6. Monday, December 29, 2008

Well, I guess I'm different.

Something about birth is personal between baby, mother, and father. With my birth only my husband was present and when I was ready people visited slowly. By the fourth baby came around though no one was interested toimmediately see the baby, which really didn't bother us.

Every time I'm in the hospital to birth, I see multiple upon multiple of unessential visitors. That's right unessential, I'm a meanie I guess I don't think grandparents, aunt's and uncles, even new aunts and uncles, and cousins should visit mother and baby in the hospital. They can wait until mother is settles at home. 

7. Monday, December 29, 2008

"Are you out of your mind?"

The above quote was said to my husband and I of all places BJs where you buy in bulk in response to the size of our family. While the next day at Mass, someone said we were so lucky to have more then two. 

Friday, July 11, 2014

7QT "A magic moment for unwed parents"

7QT More Seven Quick Takes at Jen's Conversion Diary...

 Quick Take on unwed parents is #7


1. So here I sit here in Massachusetts under one party rule, what is practiced and what is preached are two different things. Politicians say things to feed the lobbyist desires, meanwhile the rest of us are concerned with public policy and at times there is conflict.

2Yeah, it's chaos. Officially.

Sometimes you can't ignore it, but don't succumb to it either.

3. Marriage decline and the public policy chaos.
You can search numerous scholarly online articles about the decline of marriage over the past three decades, but it you search in general terms of marriage decline you will no longer see articles on public policy. All we get is just insanity on social media mocking marriage.
4. The high maintenance cost of sexual liberation
My newly divorced 31-year-old self was on the pill so I didn't even consider asking a man to wear a condom. Then, after I'd been single for about six months I saw a report on the news about the rise in cases of herpes. I was surprised and frustrated.

I assume when she is referencing herself at the age of 31, it is the early/mid 1980s. We carry the burdens of such thinking. 


5. I never understood how our dependence on contraception is so blind. There has been numerous mainstream media reports and fertility apps on smartphones are great.

Birth control may affect long-term relationships via CNN April 2012 

So it may not be as much the issue of going off birth control as it going on it in the first place. Sexual health expert Dr. Madeleine Castellanos cautions women to think carefully about their choice of contraceptive: "Some of these side effects are so serious that I now urge young women to consider just using condoms and leaving the birth control pills behind."
6. I update my sidebar, for some reason there has been an uptick on my cross posts from Opine.  

7.  A 'magic moment' for unwed parents: Best time in child's life for unwed parents to marry -- ScienceDaily
"The odds improve somewhat when mothers marry their child's biological father, Gibson-Davis said. After 10 years, 38 percent of post-conception marriages involving biological parents had dissolved. In the same period of time, 54 percent of marriages to a stepfather had ended. Those findings held true across racial lines."

How interesting in social media we are constantly being told that marriage has little to do with a child having their mother and father parent under one roof, but there are studies on it's importance whenever there is a healthy relationship between the two.


Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Listen to the victims of sexual abuse.

It is so important to hear the stories of victims of sexual abuse. Warning on the sensitive subject matter.

Comment from Instapundit 

People like to turn a blind eye to pedophilia and child abuse. For some, it's just too horrible to even think about. My own mom turned a blind eye all those years because her mind could not handle it. I've forgiven her over time, but it was hard. Years later, after my father died, I asked her 'why did you not stop it?' She said she didn't want to know.
Please read the whole story.  

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Also Mudblood Catholic's To Forgive Predator 

The tortuous slowness with which Christians are coming to face the reality of sexual predation within our congregations is horrifying; probably almost the only reason that the Catholic Church is doing as well as it is, is that it has been forced to, by the ghastly revelations of a decade ago. Meanwhile, every few months or so, I hear some new story of abuse, often at the hands of church leaders, sounding like something out of a nightmare. But the problem is beginning to be recognized, and in some degree dealt with. Above all, the wicked culture of silence on the subject is being dispelled.

The high maintenance cost of sexual liberation

I assume when she is referencing herself at the age of 31, it is the early/mid 1980s

Older People: Having Sex, Getting Diseases By 

"My newly divorced 31-year-old self was on the pill so I didn't even consider asking a man to wear a condom. Then, after I'd been single for about six months I saw a report on the news about the rise in cases of herpes. I was surprised and frustrated. I'd been so excited about my new sexual freedom, and now I realized I could catch genital warts. My single girlfriends and I talked about this, wondering what we should do. When we go out with someone new do we say, "please pass the salt and oh by the way do you have herpes?"
..... 
Now to be completely transparent (as if I haven't already been) I didn't initially consider that my partner might be having sex with others at the same time he was having sex with me (I know, so naïve of me) and the problems this could cause. This point was brought up by my gynecologist during an annual appointment. What a revelation! Of course the test didn't mean anything if he had sex with someone else between when he showed me his results and before having sex with me again. So, calling in the "big girl pants" again, I now had to learn how to have the "monogamy conversation" (with him and myself).
She does go on to give the proper advice, but why are we as women (and men) getting the idea of such high risk behavior in the first place that one needs to be coached? 

Monogamy and celibacy are perfectly good options, it doesn't mean one is lonely. 


Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Marriage decline and the public policy chaos.

Yesterday, I noted it was officially chaos. I wasn't so pessimistic even five years ago. We had elected Barack Obama, who sponsored a Responsible Fatherhood/Healthy Marriage Bill with another Democrat. We were deeply concerned with the low marriage rates/fatherless in low-income/minority communities. Even liberals, with our deepest concerns that 'marriage was for white people'. 

You can search numerous scholarly online articles about the decline of marriage over the past three decades, but it you search in general terms of marriage decline you will no longer see articles on public policy. All we get is just insanity on social media mocking marriage.


All the evidence was there. We chose to ignore it, and if anyone dares to state the obvious they will be put in their place and falsely targeted a hateful. I opened myself to being online with my real name nine years ago, I wasn't an ignorant bigot then and I am not now. The trend of the decline evident then, even thirty years ago we knew we had a problem. It was chaos then, it is chaos now, and it will continue.

In 2007, Two Democrat Senators (One being Senator Obama)

"Congress makes the following findings:(1)
The most important factor in a child’s upbringing is whether the child is brought up in a loving, healthy, supportive environment.
(2)
Children who grow up with two parents are, on average, more likely than their peers in single-parent homes to finish high school and be economically self-sufficient.
(3)
Father-child interaction, like mother-child interaction, has been shown to promote the positive physical, social, emotional, and mental development of children.
(4)
Children typically live without both parents when their parents are divorced or did not marry. More than 1/3 of all first marriages end in divorce, and 60 percent of divorcing couples have children. More than 1/3 of all births are to unmarried women.
(5)
More than 1 in 4 families with children have only 1 parent present, and more than 1 in 3 children live absent their biological father.
(6)
Recent studies demonstrate that most unwed fathers in urban areas are highly involved with the mother of their child before and after the child's birth, with 80 percent involved during the mother's pregnancy, and 50 percent living with the child’s mother at the time of the child's birth. However, the relationship between the parents often does not last, and many fathers do not maintain contact with their children as the children grow up.
(7)
An estimated 40 percent of the children who live in households without their father have not seen their fathers in at least 1 year.
(8)
The inability of parents to sustain a healthy relationship with their child’s other parent and remain involved in their child's life can have severe negative consequences for the parents, the child, their community, and taxpayers.
(9)
Single-parent families are 5 times as likely to be poor as married-couple families.
(10)
Children raised in single-parent families are more likely than children raised in 2-parent families to do poorly in school, have emotional and behavioral problems, become teenage parents, commit crimes, smoke cigarettes, abuse drugs and alcohol, and have poverty-level incomes as adults."

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Yeah, it's chaos. Officially.

Reminder to readers. I live in Massachusetts. I'm liberal in social spending on the poor, sympathetic to immigration,  anti-death penalty, and pro-environment. 

I went to college and law school in Massachusetts, and I'm reading headlines "Anti-gay group plans Salt Lake conference in 2015" 

According to the group’s website: "The natural family is the fundamental social unit, inscribed in human nature, and centered on the voluntary union of a man and a woman in the lifelong covenant of marriage. The natural family is defined by marriage, procreation and, in some cultures, adoption. Free, secure and stable families that welcome children are necessary for healthy society. The society that abandons the natural family as the norm is destined for chaos and suffering."



Yet, the public is being informed by the news media that this is hate towards homosexuals?

Just read the comments.

We all have a mom and dad, the relationship between the two matters for our well being. In less then a decade, the basic understanding and components that builds a society has become twisted as 'hate'. In all seriousness, gay people have a mom and dad too. Yes, marriage (even our civil laws) are about children, because guess how paternity is assumed? It isn't about rights, but rather obligations.



As Gabriel from Mudblood Catholic 

If you're like me, you have one or both of two reactions to that line of argument:
1. That makes total sense.
2. But fuck that noise.

Read the whole thing from him.