Wednesday, April 16, 2014

An idea that marriage once united mother and father

Despite being told marriage was only for religious reasons, Pope Francis in his recent statements didn't mention the Bible at all. He only mentioned the rights of the child to his mother and father, and the parents' right to raise the child. It doesn't sound unreasonable or ignorant. 



The idea that marriage unites mother and father, while unpopular as a consensus isn't far-fetched. It sounds almost logical.

Considering what is occurring...

"So the twins have a biological father and mother who have no legal rights over them, a non-biological legal mother who gave birth to them and another non-biological legal mother who came into their lives later!"
The children have no rights to their own kin. 

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Agamy and The Future. Why did we ignore the research from the 1990s?

Agamy as in the absence of marriage.

It always annoyed me when people used the term 'gay' marriage, by placing the word 'gay' in quotation marks. Rather it seemed like we are discussing gay 'marriage', and the word marriage should be in quotation marks because we are no longer talking about marriage.

And I'm also annoyed when someone who may favor gay marriage, citing equal access to the benefit of marriage only in the next breath state that the public policy needs to get out of marriage all together. We are spending a lot of time in the courts over marriage, and yet fewer and fewer people are getting married and staying married.

Earlier this week I mentioned that my views on marriage comes from my experience and understanding from the 1990s. And the 1990s may as well be from the stone-age, because it was pre-social media. Sure we had the Internet, but it was a function of academics at the time. I was writing papers for school and using online sources for primary references in 1998.

When there is an absence of marriage who suffers? 

Father Absence and the Welfare of Children is a working public policy paper from the 1990s. As people in 2014 would reference as 'the stone age'.
We estimate that as much as half of the disadvantage associated with father absence is due to the economic insecurity and instability. Another quarter is due to the loss of parental time and supervision, and the rest is probably due to a loss of social capital attributable in large measure to the higher incidence of residential mobility among single mothers and remarried mothers.
The likelihood of college enrollment and graduation

One-parent families include stepfamilies. The number at the top of each bar represents the percentage of high school graduates that enrolled in college. The number near the middle represents the percentage of high school graduates that graduated from college. College graduation data are not available for HSB. All numbers are adjusted for race, sex, mother's education, father's education, number of siblings, and place of residence. All differences from two-parent families are statistically significant except the PSID.

If you read further in the paper, you will see that children may do worse if the mother remarries. Not very encouraging news, seeing how our trends currently are.

It is a little disturbing that I get called some terrible names or I may become unemployable, due to my understanding of the function of marriage and family.

Observations in Lowell



These are the steps that go up to the Robinson School off Bridge Street. They're in bad shape.

Meanwhile the chatter is a new high school, despite the fact we already had this conversation in the city.

As I was walking from the Robinson around 9:30am going towards downtown, I had one person ask me for a lighter and observe two women in pajama pants. When I got downtown a dog owner had her little dog off the leash at Kerouac Park. Something I observed at least once a week. But two larger dogs were just roaming in downtown.

No one knew what to do, but it seemed myself. There was an officer on detail at some bridge construction in front of Middlesex Community College and radio in for an Animal Control Officer.

In between my cases I sat out on a bench along the Concord River, and saw an old pile of dog feces in the dried up mulch of the plants that haven't been attended to in over a year.

and...

I don't get the whole wearing you pants around your rear-end deal. You can't walk, when your belt is down that low.

and...

The profanity. We all swear, but profanity has replaced the vocabulary of other words. People swear for no good reason. It's not the profanity, but the context. It's like no one knows what to say, so they use profanity just to lengthen the conversation.

It's not Lowell, it's in the suburbs. Oddly in the suburbs, there were teachers that promoting the dumbing down of language with profanity.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

"Answer Me This" Catholic All Year

"Answer Me This" Catholic All Year

1. What time do you prefer to go to Mass?

When I'm fully awake. But I'm forced to either the 9am or 7am due to altar serving schedules.

2. Would you rather be too hot or too cold?

Oddly enough too cold, I'm use to the cold at this point and better prepared for the cold.

3. How many brothers and/or sisters do you have?

One brother that passed away in 1990. I hate being asked this question, simply because I have to explain I have a dead brother. Sometimes I say I'm an only child out of practicality, then I'm mention him when telling of my past. Not anyone's fault, asking a sibling question is perfectly normal.

4. If you were faced with a boggart, what would it turn into?

What's a boggart?

Looked it up. I fear it would be a mirror looking back at myself.

5. Barbie: thumbs up or thumbs down?

Down. No interest in her.

6. If someone asked you to give them a random piece of advice, what would you say?

Choose wisely.

Friday, April 11, 2014

2050 The Image of Americans

From Policymic

The issue is the trend of interracial-marriage and what our offspring will look like, the article references marriages for its data on children. It makes the assumptions that the two individuals in the marriage will combine their DNA to produce of child of mixed ethnicity/race.
The Wall Street Journal reported a few years back that 15% of new marriages in 2010 were between individuals of different races. It's unclear whether they've included same-sex unions in the count, but as currently stated, this number is more than double what it was 25 years ago.
Why should it make a difference if all things are equal?

What is more antiquated in the though is that children are produced within marriage, from the trends we see that the majority of children WILL NOT being born within marriage by 2050. Actually with declining fertility rates, who knows how many children will be born at all?

7QT Stacking Red Cups

More Quick Takes at Conversion Diary

1. I know I have to be a little more original with my takes, because they just become a review of the week.

2. Ancient Concepts, Tortured Definitions, and the Rotting Roots of Marriage If you are a visitor of this blog, you know very well from my post "Marriage from a Child's Point of View" written in 2007, was based on my experienced in the mid-1990s. The 1990s might as well be 50,000 years ago in they way we now speak. My defense of marriage has no roots in the current tortured definition, but from a time when the youngest Millennial were born.

3. Do I worry about social backlash?

I grew up discussing politics at the dining room table with the evening news on. I could express my ideas (AND LISTEN TO OTHERS) in the classroom as a political science major and with friends and family. I went to law school and passed the Bar. Currently I'm an active voter and engage with others at a local level. In all of these situations, I used my real name I never hid my identity from my thoughts. I'm not going to hide now.

4. Stacking red cups and the need for a strong base. That is how I see the needs of a child in terms of family. The child is the top cup, and the foundation isn't just the parents but also the parents' parents. We use to analyze these forms of social capital, but family is such a sensitive term that we can't speak of its structure or forms in our culture.


It will always be an issue. Now even if we attempt to make this distinction we could not only be called some really hurtful things, we could be sued or lose our employment.

Maybe I do worry about the backlash, but this is getting really strange.

5. "Fathers can lower their children's risk of going hungry by staying involved"

Duh.... sadly this article has only 15 likes.

6. What happens when children have no 'base'?

Single Moms, Unemployment And Day Care
"As Shanesha explained to the arresting officer she had no one to watch her kids while she interviewed for a job. The 35-year-old mother is homeless; she risked leaving her children for a short time for the chance to get work."
7. Not sure why this couple is allowed to foster, since they wanted a baby 'so bad' they went on Craig's List and was willing to pay for 'expenses'. They should be in jail too!

Monday, April 7, 2014

Ancient Concepts, Tortured Definitions, and the Rotting Roots of Marriage

" Marriage has a historic, religious and moral context that goes back to the beginning of time. And I think a marriage has always been between a man and a woman.” -Hillary Clinton
Thank You Andrew Sullivan, but Hilary is incorrect because marriage hasn't always been a man and a woman. (Yeah, that's another post)

The Ideal of Married Mother and Father -Ken Palmer
"It is natural for a man and a woman to get together and produce children. That is how we all got here. Many people who identify as gay or lesbian, even ones who want state-recognized "marriages", will agree, especially in private, with the opening statement."
It's a long text, but a great post.

Ken is from the Opine Editorals. Thanks for sticking it out with our ancient concepts.

Tortured Definitions by cyrus83 over at Althouse
The premise that supporting the traditional understanding of marriage is "anti-gay" by definition is a problem in itself. It all goes back to what one thinks the purpose of marriage is.
The purpose of traditional marriage is pro-child. I don't think it's irrational for society to support wanting children to be raised in a stable home by their natural parents. Since raising a kid takes a good 18-25 years these days, society would want to develop a structure that would keep the father and mother together, discourage having children outside of that structure, and possibly incentivize people to enter into that structure. In other words, something a lot like what marriage was before the age of easy divorce....
Many nowadays seem to have forgotten this, which is why we have often seen tortured definitions these last 10 or so years that have focused solely on the genders involved rather than on the purpose of marriage.
If you are a visitor of this blog, you know very well from my post "Marriage from a Child's Point of View" written in 2007, was based on my experienced in the mid-1990s. The 1990s might as well be 50,000 years ago in they way we now speak. My defense of marriage has no roots in the current tortured definition, but from a time when the youngest Millennial were born.

I get it, marriage was broken on arrival. Millennials have every right to consider it obsolete. Yet, I have no reason to back down or change my views on the subject, it feels like now more then ever I have every reason to preserve such an idea if we would like to return back to it.

Do I worry about social backlash?

Yes and No.

I grew up discussing politics at the dining room table with the evening news on. I could express my ideas (AND LISTEN TO OTHERS) in the classroom as a political science major and with friends and family. I went to law school and passed the Bar. Currently I'm an active voter and engage with others at a local level. In all of these situations, I used my real name I never hid my identity from my thoughts. I'm not going to hide now.

My biggest fear is the inability to listen to others, but I'm finding people are having less and less to say.